A first ever kind of
post I am writing as a concerned teacher and moreover, as a loyal citizen. I
may sound naïve but with utmost feeling, I pour out this sentiment left by some
of our parents on their children.
Not all students hail
from a sound background. Some are rich, some middle class and some very poor.
So poor that they even can’t meet their own necessities. However, whether rich
or poor, parenting plays a vital role in grooming up the children in school.
Students who are
parented well at home are most likely to succeed in school than others. No
wonder. They conduct themselves well. Their whereabouts are watched every day,
be it in school or away from school by their parents. If they show up late to
home, they are scrutinized strictly. Their homework’s are frequently monitored
upon and ensure that the child is free from the substance abuse.
More
importantly, they spare most of their time with the children.
A child upped in this
conducive environment is definite to perform well in life, not only in school.
However, some students
are just the opposite. They are so disruptive that they even go to the extent
of vandalizing principal’s office. No matter how often they are consoled,
berated or even caned they hardly show slim improvements.
Despite the perennial
efforts, the progress of such students regresses blatantly. He or she begins to
portray no interest on books, disturbs the next students and many a times,
avoid attending classes. Furthermore, their conduct remains too adamant to be
changed.
Is it the intentional
decadence of the student? Or is it the negation of the teachers?
The question, long time
back rested on teachers alone can be answered if only there is equal
willingness from the parents.
Together, the collective effort can help resolve
the problem.
Of late, one of my
students suddenly went missing from the school. Since then I have always
wondered with much perplexities. Did I fail to do my part?
Later I enquired and
found from his friends that he left the school. Nobody actually knew the root
cause. Not to worsen the matter further, I broached the concern to school
management. The school called up for necessary intervention but failed from
other side.
One day along with the
excursion made by my agriculture students to a nearby village, I was also
accompanied. My mission was to personally meet his parents and sort out the
mess. In spite of confessing the problems, the mother never did once come into
my sight. I just wanted to convey her that the school is permanently striking
off his name and handing over the student to them. All my trials went
unnoticed.
Days later, a close
neighbor of him shared me everything. He didn’t want to drop school by choice.
Circumstances compelled.
He was the eldest of the
three. Sometimes, he returned to school after lunch without food. He tended his
little brother and sister which barred him from coming to school. Besides, his
parents were also split up.
The shocking part was
quite often, it was the 16 year old boy who headed the house, when he himself
was incompetent of heading. What is more shocking was the mothers’ ignorance on
her child’s whereabouts.
If parents work
collaboratively with teachers, I am certain that every child will be special.
In fact, contrary to what you say, sometimes, more than a parenting, the parent's situation forces things to work out in a way the situation forces. Like in your story, an elder son sacrificed for the younger siblings and family's well being. I remember myself baby sitting my two young siblings and missing the classes, but i never took it to heart because i always thought that my parents always wanted good things for everyone in the family.
ReplyDeleteSituation sometimes is self inflicted. But here the blame can be put on both the situation and the unconcern parents. Once the child is away from their sight, the task is completely left on teachers. Who knows what is happening mid way? To act as a surrogate parents and remain behind at this age is not the primary goal. It might be for one or two time. The majority of time should be dedicated to schools.
ReplyDeleteAny way thank you for the valuable comment.